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Reader Stories: How I Survived My Divorce

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Many fathers who go through a divorce and the subsequent battle for child custody have an experience they would never want to repeat. Some dads actually make it through the system and end up OK. Share your story of how you survived the divorce and the custody process. Tell us what worked, what didn’t and what you would do over again. And include a photo of you and your kids to make it even more real. It is our intent that these stories will help other dads have some hope and perspective as they move through the process of dissolving a family and creating a new way of interacting with the children and the ex-spouse.

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Warren's Divorce Story

This behavior lasted 6 months and I really tried to repair the marriage but I never saw her the same. The trust was gone not to mention the love and intimacy .. It took about 2 years for the shock to…More

George's Advice on Surviving a Divorce

With a close friend and amazing advice from and every day, almost every hour, support from a female friend, I am moving on with my life trying to create a new family for my son and I. During my darke…More

Advice about Surviving Divorce from Ray

Well, a lot of holding myself accountable for the things that I should/would have changed and a whole lot of God. Without the chance to hope for things unseen we would all live in misery in knowing o…More

Disappointed Dad's Divorce Story

Depression and anger. Not sure I will overcome either. My life is a bit of a mess. Now I'm selling my business and will work for new owner, hoping for stability, and I am trying to reinvent myself af…More

Ken's Story on Surviving Divorce

Still suffering financially. I've started a new relationship and I have a 1 year old daughter. It's hard taking care of her when my greedy ex is draining me and really not using the money she receive…More

Mike's Story About a Stay-at-home Dad's Divorce

I am not coping with it .. I have been the main care giver and have seen the children and cared for them every day since they were born. I have attempted suicide once (only after the doctor put me on…More

Dave's Story

Because I don't have the financial or cognitive ability to defend myself the court has taken everything from me. Even my vehicle. I have crutches to help me walk. The commissioners have treated me li…More

Skin's Divorce Story

My kids saved me from committing suicide. My kids are the most important thing in my life. They mean everything to me. I was devastated by what she had done to me. I still cannot imagine how you can …More

Bill's Divorce Story

So when something like this happens you start to question everything. I fought! I fought to get as much time with my kids as possible. I fought to put myself into best possible financial position. I …More

Harold's Divorce Story

It was rough; I lost my wife and child at the same time, lost my job, got a better job. I was a wreck. Took it day by day, never dated or went out just work and home. After I got my son it was like t…More

Tim's Story

Friends! Speak to them and let them cheer you up. Be careful not to over burden them but don't feel you need to hide the situation, either.I started an online journal in 2004 to help me vent my frust…More

Fighting Father's Divorce Story

I have no problem at all dealing with the end of our relationship. I knew it was best and actually was excited to move on. I met a wonderful women and had a one year relationship before the issues wi…More

David's Story

My kids are asking lots of questions about whose idea was it to break up. Is okay to live together? why can't I live with you? My ex wife refuses to discuss the divorce. Now she is telling them she i…More

Barry's Advice on Getting Through Divorce

Blogging really does help - http://living4amiracle.blogspot.comAfter 17 years of marriage, in six short months she became someone I never knew. Saying she never loved me. She had NEVER shown any sign…More

Christopher's Divorce Story

The divorce was a long process three years plus, and still proceeding. At first, I smoked a lot of pot to deal with the pain. Then drank a lot. Soon though reality set in, realizing the custody battl…More

Jamie's Story

It has been over year and a half in courts and still going. She is sucking whatever future my kids have down the drain. I am living with my parents and barely get to see my kids. I cry every day that…More

Jeanette's Story

I still have trouble dealing with the divorce. Knowing that his mistress moved into our house while we were still going through the whole thing was mind blowing. Not to mention that after I signed th…More

Gregor's Story

Drank. I met better women. Talked to loved ones. Found another partner after one year and wasn't looking. Some moms are the best and will bring you back to be there for your little man. My mother hel…More

Tom's Story

I'm child-support poor and will be poor for a long time. After a short time I gave up seeing my children. I saw no reason to stay, had no say in raising them anyway, and was treated like a free babys…More

Bart's Story About Divorce and Self-Care

I have not coped very well, I must admit..it has been hell. I lost my family, my money, and my health has been not so well. I keep telling myself that I will be all right, and hope that happens. My k…More

Fathers, Divorce and the South African Way

I have had therapy, and spent most of the time learning what I could to ensure that the children's best interests were kept. Read the divorce acts, books and any piece of information I could lay my h…More

Andy's Story of Divorce

Knowing things were not going to improve I decided to cut her loose and never look back. This had to be a clean and sharp break with the only tie between us being the kids. There were no more convers…More

Lost Wife to Weight Loss and Social Networks

Still trying to find my way. Process just started. Getting the house ready to be sold. Kids are in turmoil, sick. I feel bad for them as much as I do for me. I have two teenage boys that don't even w…More

Long Relationship, Short Marriage and Then Divorce

I am trying to find the best way to file and have joint, full, custody of a 15 year old boy. I tried to leave like I said and it was going well with our agreement. I kept up on my end of the agreemen…More

Navin's Story

I don't know yet. I know what I am doing is right. I was divorced earlier too. This time also I will manage but I do not know because this time a child is involved. I will just have to sacrifice my l…More

Greg's Ideas on Surviving Divorce

I ran and got into shape. I stayed with a childhood friend who was my life manager. He feeds me and feeds my ego. His wife was so understanding; they really helped me understand what happened to me. …More

Ben Started a Blog

I coped with my divorce by talking with friends about the events. The hardest part about my divorce was not being around my sons. I had to spend so much time away from them instead of being with them…More

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