What happened to cause the divorce?
Wife had gastric bypass, lost over 100 lbs, got plastic surgery. Started hanging out with new friends at work. Started dressing like a twenty year old. She is 38. She started going out to bars and dressing skimpy. One day she said she wants out. 3 kids together, with 2 foster children. Married almost 19 years.
How did you personally cope with the divorce?
Still trying to find my way. Process just started. Getting the house ready to be sold. Kids are in turmoil, sick. I feel bad for them as much as I do for me. I have two teenage boys that don't even want to come home anymore. My teenage daughter doesn't want to go out of the house. The foster girls are both sick and quiet. We have had them for almost two years. One just keeps throwing up.
Lessons Learned
- Pay attention! If your wife is overweight, let her stay that way. My wife was so much happier when she was heavy. So was I. Avoid Facebook and other social sites. That was the turning point I think when she started one. This was before losing weigh.
What was your experience with legal process?
Nothing yet. Hoping to stay out of it.
What was the outcome of the divorce proceeding?
Waiting.
How is it going now?
Bad days. I wish it was over already and we can move on. She tried to hug me to say that she just wants to be friends. Yeah right! She thinks we are still back in high School.
