Talking to Preschool Children About Sex

You may feel that under 3 is too young to communicate about sex, and from a clinical standpoint, you are right. But attitudes about sex are formed early and have their foundation in relationships. The focuses at early ages should be on knowing the names of body parts, on healthy touch and on privacy and respect.

• Naming Body Parts. Children under age three are exploring their world and their bodies and will be inquisitive. When you start helping them know about ears and fingers, it's OK to start helping them know about penises and vulvae. Don't be ashamed or embarrassed. It is just part of learning about their world.

• Healthy Touch. The foundations of sexual attitudes are formed early. You can help your preschool child start to identify how good touch feels as opposed to bad touch. Hugging and cuddling is good and healthy and will help children feel confident in their own bodies. But avoiding unhealthy touch (touching their own or others genitals) should be taught as well. Watch for opportunities to teach proper attitudes toward touch. Help them know that they should talk with you if anyone touches a part of their body that is covered by a swimming suit.

• Teaching Privacy and Respect. One of the most important things parents can do with preschoolers is to teach privacy and respect for others' privacy. Teach them about dressing modestly when they are three and it will not be much of an issue at 14. Help them know that certain parts of our bodies need to stay covered.

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