Attachment Parenting Defined:
Why Parents Embrace Attachment Parenting:
The Basic Principles of Attachment Parenting:
Preparation for pregnancy, birth and parenting. Pregnancy can bring many different feelings for prospective mothers and fathers. Some of those feeling may be negative including thoughts about what the parents are giving up to become parents, fears of inadequacy or a sense of dread. Attachment parenting suggests eliminating these fears and feelings by better preparation and understanding of pregnancy, birth and parenting.
Respond with sensitivity. Parents who use attachment parenting as their style of choice recognize that every effort at communication by a baby or a child should be taken seriously. Children are not just left to "cry it out," but rather mom and dad try to learn the various communication cues in crying to help meet a baby's needs.
Practice positive discipline. Parents are encouraged to help make discipline with a child positive rather than negative. Redirecting, distracting and modeling appropriate behavior are the discipline norms for parents using attachment parenting.
Strive for life balance. Healthy lifestyles, good exercise and nutrition, and solid support networks are essential to help parents using attachment parenting in keeping their lives in a good balance that provides comfort and security for a baby.
Implications for FathersIt is important that both parents commit wholeheartedly to attachment parenting. Fathers may see a partner who has embraced attachment parenting without him as having lost interest in him as she fully engages as a mother. Communication is essential.
In addition, many parents embrace some of the basic principles of attachment parenting but not all. For example, an occasional date night or time with a baby in a stroller may make the lifestyle a little less demanding. Every family needs to find their own appropriate level of any parenting style and make it work for their own situation.
That being said, attachment parenting can be a very fulfilling approach to parenting. It has many components which feel quite natural. For example, there are certainly societal issues with breastfeeding toddlers in public (or even in private), but it can be very beneficial for the child's emotional development and can engender tender feelings for a mother. We need to be conscious of both sides of the equation and always work to do what it best and right for our children. Attachment parenting can be a parenting style that works for mom, dad and baby as they learn to become a family together.